It's his choice to keep it secret but I told as many people as possible because, if it weren't for an alert doctor who did a PSA test as part of my physical, things would have been a lot worse for me down the road. Many guys don't even KNOW they should have this test. Spreading awareness is important.

Also, having a friend or two to help can take some of the load off you.

However, you should ultimately respect his choice.

@dannysbraid I can say honestly that when I first posted on this site I did know what to expect but the support here has been amazing. We told family & very close friends beforehand but you should respect his wishes if he doesn’t want to share. It’s very personal, and it can be very difficult emotionally. My hubby & I are very close so pretty much discuss everything in detail with each other 😳 When people do learn about it they offer all kinds of advice - it’s a lot to process & research.
You’ll be emotional- it’s a roller coaster. Perhaps one of the support groups on here might be helpful?
Wishing you both well & Hope surgery is a success

It is a personal decision, but I told pretty much everyone I had a relationship with (and some I didn’t) when diagnosed last year. The benefits for me were numerous. You find out how much people really care about you. You hear other stories of guys who have been through it. You help guys decide to get tested (a friend found out he had early stage Gleason 6). You can educate people about how this is NOT the good cancer. It is cancer and there are countless variables on how it impacts life. Being on this forum is also a way to give back and hopefully give hope.