Your experience is unfortunately the norm. But depending on which country you are in you can find a list of doctors = generalists and specialists - who can help you. In the US its the North American Menopause Society. In Australia, the Australiasian Menopause Society. They both provide a "good' doctor list. I had hoped to find a sympathetic endocrinologist as I was so fearful of taking HRT at my age after such a long gap. But I wasnt in the right area and so far I have been reassured by my new HRT general practitioner that I am not so unusual. She put me on the lowest possible dose of estradiol gel; 0.1% @ 0.5g a day, 1 x 100mg cap of progesterone a day and a newly available vaginal pessary called Prasterone as she noted the vaginal pessaries I have been using for more than 20 years were doing nothing for me! It will be another 6 months before I will see what impact it has had on my bones but in the meantime it has already delivered some life changing results in terms of vastly improving my mood, anxiety, chronic and an over active bladder which forced me to get up during the night - often up to 10 times. Now its just once or twice a night. Its sensational. Certainly worth all the trouble you are going to find the right medico. And by the way, there are numerous studies which have found you can be on biosphonates AND HRT at the same time if your osteoporosis is still in the severe category.