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@saa76 I see you have gotten a lot of support and suggestions here. Two years is a long time to deal with memory loss on your own. Do you have anyone you can turn to for relief or even to vent after a dustup? Do your family members know what is happening behind closed doors, and can they give you an occasional break?
I was the one who took my Mom for a driving evaluation after her stroke - when an independent evaluator decided she shouldn't drive. She was furious, and reminded me regularly right up until her death 5 years later. I understood the loss of independence, but at least I had the support of family, telling me it was the right decision.
Hugs to you - caring for a loved one who is no longer rational is one of the hardest jobs on earth!
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My mom has Alzheimer’s dementia, moderate. She stills drives short distances. My dad is no help at all and is even enabling as she often can’t find her car in the parking lot. I haven’t heard of independent drivers tests. How would I go about getting one for my mother?
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I was informed of the legal/financial liability of allowing an individual to continue to drive after a dimentia diagnosis. Since we are relying on our retirement funds to pay for future medical care we can't take risks. We also have to consider the safety of ourselves and others. I was lucky that that he turned over the keys and allowed me to take over the driving. But he still says it was my choice at every opportunity and others have questioned me about it too.