When things start getting touch n go i usually do not respond..some days he screams loud outside saying I can't do it and I am not going to do it. He had no patience whatsoever and being bi-polar also is scarey but I try to join him in watering the garden and flowers. Last nite he forgot to water flowers I said they would die..he said we'll let them die or you do it. I am constantly picking up the slack its like being a manager all over again but instead of college kids and high schoolers its a 76 year old man. Everyday is different. I do not allow my hubby to drive at all. I mow the lawn and weed it bought things that I could handle like smaller lawn mower and smaller battery operated weed eater. Life goes on try real hard to stay happy...say self today is another day we can do this. I sure would love to crawl into his head just for 5 minutes.