@jenniferla

Not to keep going on and on, but also, I can relate when you say that your dad respects his son’s opinions more than yours. My dad, being from that very traditional, authoritative, etc role generation has been much the same. Until my brother died recently (and unexpectedly, about four months ago), I was able to enlist his help from out of state, to talk to dad about things he did not take well from me. Now that is going to be a big challenge in my situation! In your situation, now that your dad has so much other outside help (and I assume they will be doing the grodier things that he probably would never have allowed a son to do), his son will be able to in many ways stay in the role of son—rather than that full on, 24/7 caregiver role. So if you see them enjoying more harmony than you did as caregiver, that may be a factor? I am just so sorry you are going through this after dedicating so much to caregiving for him!