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Survivor guilt (?)

Prostate Cancer | Last Active: Oct 10 10:53am | Replies (46)

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Thanks for initiating and adding too this string of posts. Yes, survivors' guilt comes in many forms. My dear wife of 53 years had multiple sclerosis (MS) for the last 20 years of it and I was caregiver. In Jan of 2022 we both contracted Covid. Mine was like a bad cold, her's started that way but the autoimmune disease modifying therapy (DMT's that suppress the immune system) sent her on a fast track to lung failure.
Could I have done more? Made her more comfortable over the years of quadriplegia? Challenged her more to retain function? And worst of all, could I have been somehow glad to be relieved the stress and strain of her cursed MS???
Don't know. And in spite of super support from our 2 grown and very wonderful sons - it still haunts me.
But life does go on. And I try, sometimes too hard, to make the most of every day. Fun and service to friends, family, and God (choose your concept) are great distractions.
(PC is now only an unwelcome distraction at this point of zero PSA's for the last 3+ years)
Blessing to all you guys and prayers you can enjoy some of all of your 'bonus years' after diagnosis.

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It sounds like you did everything you could to give her a warm, loving environment. I hope you feel comforted when you look back on that.

Diagnosed in May 2004, prostatectomy & Radiation in September 2004. My wife diagnosed with advanced Breast cancer in November 2004. She passed in 2009 after 33 years of marriage. Later I married a widow who lost her husband to cancer. The survivor guilt lessens but never goes away.