It makes me sad to hear your story but at the same time I don’t feel so alone. Not that it makes it any better for us. I could go on and on what he has said and done to me which progressively got worse. His selfish narcissistic personality has consumed him. Honestly, I think being in Vietnam War and all the VA benefits he’s received over all these years has made him think he’s better than everyone else and can belittle others. I have deep respect and admiration for Americans who served and serve in the military. He never apologizes and thinks he’s right. He wants me to leave and have nothing to do with him. Now his son and his family is upstairs taking turns caring for him and I’m in the basement. Many times my mind gets very dark like I don’t want to live anymore. I talked to the VA caregiver support program coordinator about this too. 😭 Thank you for spending your time responding.