@ktcosmos Im so sorry that you’re have to give up hobbies- those are really important! Your husband is dependent on you staying healthy, including mental health. Is there any respite care services nearby?
Is it possible that you could afford a home health provider for a couple of hours a week, hopefully billed to insurance or Medicare?

I’ve offered to day-sit for a few hours for a Tai Chi friend’s husband who had a stroke and at this point cannot stay by himself (stroke 2 years ago). She is a gifted quilter and feels she must give up going to meetings to stay home with him. She is his full time caregiver and you can just see her withering away. She worries she can’t “pay” me back - but it takes a community that we all depend on when we need help. I ask her to just “pay it forward” but so far she hasn’t taken me up on my offer.

Is there anyone who could provide a few hours off for you? Church members? Community group members? Maybe put out a few “feelers” when you’re around others about looking for someone to help out. Or maybe there is a dementia group around and you could find another person willing to trade off, if the dementia patient can travel to another’s house.