I’m trying.
All three grown kids are different, so I try different approaches. The oldest still talks on the phone, does so about once a week. If I don’t hear from her, I’ll text in a couple of days and ask how she’s doing. That works.
The middle daughter is polite, only texts, not often, works a lot of overtime and is wrapped up in her own world;
the youngest lets his wife do the communicating. And she thinks I am perfect, lol.
But if I have a specific request they all do it. Overall, they are good kids.
My problem is me!! I have to let them know that I am Not OK all the time, share the bad with the good.
I am trying to be part of their lives, don’t hear much there, guess we all have problems sharing.

One big problem I have is that two of them, who are the closest to me in proximity, can’t stand each other, they are middle aged and I wished they’ll grow up! Of course I don’t tell them that, but I did tell them that I’ll stay out of it and don’t take sides.
I don’t like drama.
Enough for tonight…… guess I needed an ear. Thanks.