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Do others of you just constantly have that nervousness in the pit of your stomach? I just got off the telephone with my 89-year-old brother who does have dementia - many health issues in the past, but overall doing quite well. We talk and see each other often, we are only 20 minutes apart in the same town. However, her conversations are disjointed and as it goes, her cognition is going downhill more so these past few months. she is still in a “independent living room however if I did not do her medicine, help her with appointments and other things she will certainly be considered assisted-living. I don’t even want to consider memory care down the road! The point being, anytime there is change with her. I get so worried - like my phone call with her this morning regarding her being so tired and bathroom issues as of this past week …anyway, as we say, I just keep trying to say the serenity prayer.
I really am not a downer type of person so excuse if these last posts I’ve seemed that way. I wish all a good day.!
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Well this is embarrassing- but I realize in my above comment “ …. Constant anxiety pit of stomach …”
I TYPED my BROTHER and I MEANT my MOTHER - 89 year old 🙃 !!! For Pete sake - ?!
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Hi @karen8, short of living with your sibling, you can't be there 24/7 to provide support and guidance. Is it possible to get some in-home help for your sibling now? Either through a private or public program/agency?
My mother took care of my father at home until his dementia progressed to the point where he had to go into a nursing home. Then her own health deteriorated.
My mother-in-law went into a nursing home for health reasons, not related to any kind of dementia , and she thrived there because it was a social environment.
If you can find a good placement, you will have some peace of mind that your loved one is being cared for 24/7.
I've been caregiving for my husbnd with Alzheimer's for the last seven years. He still functions pretty well, but when I am no longer able to care for him, I know he will have to go into a care home, and I'm okay with that.