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Being 'stuck' is one of the stages of being a caregiver. It comes after accepting a loved one has a disease. I asked my psychology nurse for a list of books and the first one he recommended was "Man's Search for Meaning." I read it cold, not knowing what the book was about and it gives a powerful insight into what it means to be "stuck" and what can be done. I'm stuck too.
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, "Man's Search for Meaning"
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I also just read Viktor Frankl and found it a life saver! Uplifting! Thank you for sharing.
@elliottw this is an excellent suggestion. I read it after Sept. 11 terrorist attack and helped me. Everyone should read this Viktor Frankl “Man’s Search for Meaning.” At least once.
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When I started my caregiving journey, "Man's Search for Meaning" was one of the books that really helped me. Another helpful one was "The Book of Joy," by the Dalai Lama and Bishop Desmond Tutu.
And, to @karen8, it's hard to accept that everyone you know and love doesn't "get" what you're going through...at all. It makes it lonely, and it made me a little angry at first.
Try to get out when you can. Even short breaks can help.
Try to accept that the people in your life have their own perspectives. They'll never understand what you're going through and the sacrifices you're making. You'll be happier if you can find it in yourself to love them anyway.