You just described my husband! He tries to fix things and messes it up. I stay several steps ahead . Trash, Recycle, bills, repairs. Cleaning up the yard after a storm. Water plants and of course clean up the house. Sometimes I am so tired I just want a day that I do nothing at all. Nope I at least have to cook . I won't let my spouse touch things in the kitchen. He does not always remember what to do. His hands shake and I certainly don't want a fire or him cut on knives ,etc. I know it is hard for him to not help. I engage in anyway I can. That helps him feel like he is part of decisions and miscellaneous stuff. But he is a bull in a China shop. He has forgotten how to do so many things together. Games, special things he would do for me like flowers and a nice card. Last Christmas I let him off at a Hallmark store and he bought 3 beautiful cards. Christmas, my Birthday and our Anniversary. He was so happy about it. I think the little things matter. We spent Christmas in another state. I did not decorate for the first time in 51 yrs. I love how he took the time to write which he does not do well because of shaking hands. Love was in his eyes when he gave me my card's on each of those events with the biggest smile 😃