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What can I do to keep him busy?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 6 days ago | Replies (37)Comment receiving replies
My spouse ruined Father's Day. He was rude to me. He refused to meet our grandkids and our daughter and SIL. I decided not me..I am going to meet with them. I enjoyed laughing and feeling loved. He still has not talked to me. Nothing happened to him . He could care less what he was given for Father's Day. I opened the card and placed right under the TV. I did tell him he was being selfish and uncaring to people I love and he should be ashamed. He knows the difference from right and wrong. He complains no one calls him. No..he doesn't pick up the phone. He is still ignoring me and at this point I do not care. I am so angry at him. I cannot imagine why he decided to act this way after our family changed the location where we met up..just for him. His disrespect of all of us made him look small. I might speak tomorrow if I hear I am sorry. I asked him to leave me alone and he could decide when and if he would like to have an adult conversation. Rant over.
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Father's Day! I'm the one with MCI! A delivery was to be made at our house and since it was father's day I said I'd stay home to accept it. It was a lawn mower my husband should not have ordered at this time!! On a Sunday and a holiday at that. When it was delivered I called to let the family know it had been delivered and they could come get me which is 15 minutes away- I can no longer drive - my husband told them I didn't want to come! NOT TRUE! Both daughters called later to say they were sorry I didn't want to come. Did I actually say I didn't want to be with my family? I sure don't remember that but after all I'm the one with the mental problem. As the previous writer said. Rant over. I can't cause an uproar in our family.
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I think tempering expectations is helpful. Dementia means there is brain damage, so behaving appropriately, being cooperative, appreciative, etc. is not a given. My dad may tolerate a family gathering for a short time, but then goes to another room. It’s too much for him. He’s not being rude. It’s brain damage. I would not expect an adult conversation with my dad, though he does ok at times. For me, it’s helpful to remember it’s a medical issue, not a diss against me.