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What is the best thing to say?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jun 23 1:49pm | Replies (50)Comment receiving replies
My husband says he “can’t remember anything “. He says he doesn’t know what he would do if I was not here. Then later he swears that he can take care of himself.
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Mine says that too. And also that I’m controlling because I do all that he can’t do anymore. I try to tell him that one of us have to do the things necessary because he is ill and that I’m ok with helping but it doesn’t matter as in his eyes I’m the bad person. I can get family members to help me but then he’s jealous of them doing what he can’t so I try to do all myself. It’s hard to please him.
I can relate to what you said…happens so often in our day. My husband states that his memory is gone and everything is so confusing and he’s glad I’m here to help him….then when frustration sets in he tells me that I’m useless and good for nothing. It hurts but I try to remember that he’s sick….😢
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My husband insists he is competent around repairs, finances and being aware of what needs tending but the truth is that his behavior shows otherwise, won't accept support and tries to keeps his dementia a secret from others and wants me to, also. It feels like a double whammy for me.