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Depression since my brother-in-law passed away?
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Jan 28, 2017 | Replies (8)Comment receiving replies
Hello @pamelacelia,
I also wanted to reach out and let you know that we are glad you've turned to the Connect community to find some answers. I would encourage you to look at some discussions in Mental Health as well:
Depression and anxiety: Exercise eases symptoms
http://mayocl.in/2dcJB7p
Depression — Let’s snap out of expecting to snap out of it
http://mayocl.in/2i59kQf
Is counseling helpful?
http://mayocl.in/2g37guy
No matter how you experience it, depression is different for each person. Perhaps you were so occupied with caring for your brother-in-law, that his passing may have left a void in your day-to-day life. Seeking help from those trained to assist you will help you feel better and be more productive, and most importantly, give you the tools necessary to be able to handle those down days in the future.
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I have struggled my whole life with depression. Mine is biological and situational. I also have a sleep disorder where I want to sleep ALL the time!! I know a lot about depression, having a college degree and had a career in related fields. I know the best practices. My question is...... If one is socially isolated (as I am) and have no in-put from others, no one 'checking on me', initiating outings, etc. etc.....and no internal self motivation or discipline. ... HOW does one get motivated to START?? How do I start... getting out of bed and dressed, go for groceries, make meals, call a friend, exercise, STOP sleeping/going back to bed during the day, eat terrible things, etc....... and NOT CARE that I'm doing this even when I know it's bad for me. Yes.... I am on meds. Yes ..... I see a counselor as often as I am allowed per insurance-- once every 3 wks. But something is not triggering here. Yes... I can talk to my doctors..... but I see them individually-- not as a TEAM that all talk together about my conditions. .... And because some are 'med checks' I see them very infrequently for short appointment times..... basically to write continued prescriptions. And with most of them I babble about all of this.... like they are a counselor and not a med dr. Or can't explain myself well enough in few words...... (see how I write... ??) And then I go home and continue this very bad lifestyle pattern. Initiation of activity and social outlets are just too hard... I don't make myself. And I get soooooo anxious about things, it is just easier and calming to stay home and 'putter'. I have thought of changing meds..... but who am I to say??? and how do drs. decide WHAT meds to prescribe??? And which dr. do I bring this up to?? I have 5. And then how long does it take to see if they are working? If not... what next?? ...... And so it goes..... Thanks for listening.... I know that the purpose of this group is not.... nor can be.... to solve .... and may not be for the very reasons why I write .... venting ..... but venting to others is more effective 🙂 (sorry) .... Also apologizes for piggy backing this post... It should/could have been a new post .... but something that I say TOO often during the day ......... Whatever .....
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Thank you @kanaazpereira, any insight is welcomed.