@pamelacelia Welcome to Mayo Connect. You are posing a good question and you are very fortunate to have such caring friends looking out for you! The question you ask as to whether you have depressions is a good one. Depression is known to creep up on people who are least expecting it. While I (nor anyone else) can accurately diagnose you, what your friends (and you) have indicated about a change in your behavior could certainly indicate a problem with depression, especially since it followed the loss of a relative who meant a lot to you. I would suggest talking with your primary care doctor or mental health professional. They could more accurately diagnose and treat you if you in fact have depression. Thanks for being so courageous at looking at yourself. Best wishes to you!