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What boundaries to set for my 29 yr old alcoholic son?
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Hello @sharbern,
Being able to attend AA meetings around the world is truly incredible. It not only creates deep, meaningful connections, but also highlights a powerful truth: addiction affects people from all walks of life, in every corner of the world. Those who experience addiction are not bad people—they are people struggling with a difficult disease.
I love that @SusanEllen66 added the Serenity Prayer to her comment for this discussion. That is always a good reminder for me, and I feel that is a great saying when it comes to anyone dealing with a loved one who is in active addiction.
@sharbern, have you ever attended AL-ANON meetings? If so, what has your experience been there to help you on your recovery journey?
@lisaav, how are you doing? Have you been to any AL-ANON meetings?
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There are hundreds of al-anon meetings in the world - and hundreds online through zoom. There is even an Al-Anon app, where you can post and go to meetings that way. We can’t tell you what boundaries to set - but if you go to al-anon, learn to focus on yourself you will learn what boundaries you need to set for you. People can tell you they think you should do, but they aren’t you.
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Alcoholism is not an addiction, as I understand it. It was explained to me that if you put 10 people in a room & gv them noting but heroin they will all be addicted to heroin.
If you put 10 people in a room & gv them nothing but alcohol only those with the disease of alcoholism will be Alcoholics.
Alcohol doesn't process thru the body of an alcoholic the same way that it does non-alcoholics. The system of Alcoholics is different, that is why the AMA defines it as a disease.
Al-anon helped me greatly with my family or origin issues as well as those that have many other issues,
As far as my son, I cldn't detach. It helped to a degree to be able to see that he has a disease & to not take things personally.