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Caregivers | Last Active: Jun 10 11:50pm | Replies (19)

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I don't have a POA or anything legal. She's still able to take care of herself and she is denying help. Not sure what I can do. At this moment getting into legal stuff isn't going to happen.

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It puts you in a bad situation for her to not appoint you as Healthcare POA and Durable POA while she’s still competent. Because, she’ll likely eventually encounter a crisis or need help. At that point, she may not be able to appoint anyone. Then, the courts may have need to appoint someone. It’s so frustrating when seniors resist help.

I’m not aware of anything that prevents family members from sending information to their parent’s doctor. He may not be able to respond, but as long as he gets the info.

Do you think your mom would want to take any of the dementia meds like Aricept, if given the chance? My dad takes two and they seem to have really helped with his progression.

Good luck. I’ll just add that becoming involved with a parent’s medical/personal care can be a thankless job. I wish I had not taken on the role with my parents. Do you have anyone else who can take this on?