The counselor sounds like a great idea. It sounds like you got a lot from it and your support group. You make some excellent points. I know that I remind my mom a lot to stop giving my dad information that he must process and remember…..cause he can’t. And, to not keep telling him she’s told him something 3 times. It serves no purpose and just makes him feel bad.

I would check with your husband’s doctor about alcohol dementia though, because I have read that it is one type of dementia that can be reduced by stopping drinking. Other kinds can’t.

Have you gotten a legal consult yet? That’s really important too. Best wishes with everything.