How do I age happily and gracefully?

64 IS young (78) and white hair is stunning! I have just a bit of it at sides. Keep it well cut and hold head up. I know pain ages us but try hard to make the face lines - smile lines! Each day brings us some small gifts - stay open!

Lot of good advice here.
In my case (I'm in my 82nd, most say so u r 81 year old? I say Ya, but if a 6th grader can say I'm in 7th grade rather than 'I've done 6 grades, why can't I') the age is IRRELEVANT to my aging "happily" or "gracefully." I do not attach My Worth to the numbers of years one has been on this earth... why should one?
But if one does want to know HOW to live Happily and Gracefully, I'd say this Happens to us while we are living a life that has meaning and Purpose for us.
In other words, each hour and each week of my life I make sure I live in ways that I would be able to say to myself: Well, I did spend My Time the way I believed was the Best Possible For ME.
You can see that's the most we can do on this earth. No magical aspirations.
As you can see, attaching one's worth to How we Look, or what someone thinks about us are mostly outside our control.
What IS in our control is How We take care of ourselves...wherever we're born With whatever we are born.
Eating nutritious and tasty food ( I do it within ten dollars a day including my cat's), being physically active each day without sitting for hours, and managing my stresses as well as I can. I sleep soundly because I know I must be well rested to do what I've planned for my next day.
This helps me to be contented.
But I am surely happy or unhappy may times a day about the world I live in. That is not what I complain about even when I talk about it. It'll get me nowhere
Good Luck!

Sorry that you are having such a hard time with an awful situation. In light of the fact that everyone agrees that what you are dealing with is awful, how might his also be connecting to something more. Its might be helpful to reach out for some therapy. Crisis is an opportunity to take care of ourselves, and allow ourselves to take up our lives and live with well being and vitality. Life is too short not to do all we can to get the help we need. So take good care of yourself.

😀 You can do it !! I can tell you what I do, I too am all gray, but I keep my hair colored, I dress nice and casual, make sure I smell clean and fresh where ever I go, I where makeup, it make me feel good about me I smile when I come in contact with others. They don't need to know what I am thinking nor How I feel.
Believe me people my age or jealous, they say I don't look My age, I hear it a lot.
We all must do a little extra to help our self it shows you love yourself. If God bless you to work, change the way
You view work, its good you can still be of use to society
and be around others.
Nothing remains the same you will fine joy.

I have been retired 12 years, havn't slowed down yet although did realize a car wash not an applicable place for a Retiree to work in the winter but got thru a winter ok!! I say keep going!!! When you have to to sit down or slow down some you'll know n it but not until you have too !!!