what should I do am I being too dramatic?

help541, Beautiful Sweet girl, some things never change. Girls in high school can be so cruel. This is not a new thing....believe me and I am much older than you. I apologize to you on their behalf. This is cruel and
hurtful and immature. Sounds like you are very mature for your age.

Is there another sport that you can be involved in at this point in the school year? Sounds like you have lost interest in this and it's expensive for you.

If this gets completely out of hand, I would talk to your mom some more, perhaps the school counselor or perhaps talk to a teacher that you are close too.

A lot of times, when someone makes fun of you or excludes you, it's because they are so insecure themselves.
Sometimes, its jealousy.

I am so sorry they are treating you so unfairly. One day you will look back at this and it will be a distant memory. You will have moved on in life and realized you were much more mature than that, took the
higher road and acted accordingly.

You are tenderhearted....that's a good thing. I also am tenderhearted and had much rather be that way than to be uncaring and cruel to others.

I was an overweight child. I got called names on the school bus. When I became a teenager I lost a lot of weight and got really thin. Guess what? They called me names because I was thin! The name calling made me
more sensitive to the less fortunate and the downcast and I learned that those less fortunate than me needed
my friendship. It was a blessing to be a blessing to someone. I'm sure there are people at your school that would love a friend....just like you.

I was not athletic in gym class. I loved health....but not p.e. I was not the teacher's favorite. She was very competitive....I was the last one chosen for teams. This served me later on in life as it taught me humility.

You are going to be ok. I love you, praying for you and God has made you very special. Please keep me posted on your progress.

Blessings & Prayers.....

I wish I could offer some helpful insight. But I was the least athletic and most unpopular guy in high school.
I can, however, express my sympathy and empathy.
Also, I encourage you to stay strong and keep believing in yourself.
Chances are, in a few years those girls will be unhappy, out of shape, possibly divorced, and have their best days in the rear-view mirror.
Who'll be laughing then?

I remember being your age and feeling not a part of things and that something was wrong with me, high school was very cliquey too and i wasn’t in the “in crowd” so to speak. It took me going to college to find out who I was and be comfortable with that. U didn’t need to be part of something to feel good about myself. I had a small group of friends that was enough for me and I was also in the dance team with a lot of the “cool kids” and felt left out there too. You are discovering who you are and try not to compare yourself to others. There are alot cruel people in this world today. Do what feels good for you and when others say things about you remember what they say reflects the kind of person they are, not who you are, it’s there stuff not yours. One day at a time, be good to yourself and surround yourself with people you live. Pray for r a calm heart and smell the roses 🌷

@help541

High school is so difficult unless you belong to a group. Your swim coach was entirely out of line with her comments especially if she said them so others could hear. Don’t let yourself be a doormat…people will treat you with disdain unless you speak up. If you feel that someone, like your swim coach, is being unfair, then respond back in a respectful way. You could have said the other girls are on their phones. Don’t let anyone be a bully even those in authority.. People bully when they are insecure because it makes them feel better. Assert yourself more but don’t be nasty. This might be hard for you to do if you are on the shy side or if you are overly sensitive.

Good grief high school! It will take a whole new attitude on your part but will pay off faster than you think and benefit you in the future. You might want to read some books on this subject. Good luck honey..thank goodness high school doesn’t last forever.
I would like to add that some people will always seek out the most vulnerable to make themselves feel better…it’s a fact of life.
FL Mary

You are not being dramatic. You are saying exactly how you feel and that is a sign that you are very self aware. I guarantee you that those other girls are not. They sound like some of the girls I knew in when I was in Junior High and High School. I understand the need to belong. We all have that need. If you do not enjoy the swim team, maybe find something else? Is there a speech and drama team? That is what I did and I enjoyed it a lot. Also, any coach that mentions your weight in such a way, I would avoid. Body shaming is brutal and I always thought I was fat. I am 5'8 and I was always one of the tallest in school. I look back at myself and think, damn, I was great. I looked great. Just know that you are really empathic and your self awareness exceeds those that are in the clique. However, I will say that girls in cliques also have insecurities, they are just too immature to realize how their actions affect other people. Hang in there. Make a list of something new you think would be interesting. Something for yourself. I am grateful for your post.

Ginny

Hello:
In your first sentence you wrote, 'team'. What you describe is not folks acting like a team. If you are up for it, type an anonymous letter to the coach's superior, letting them know the adult is not a team player nor a good role model, and that the team has some unacceptable behaviors happening (bullying) that are being tolerated and repeated by the responsible adult; not okay. If you see something, say something or nothing will change. Since no one is calling them on their behavior, it continues. Good luck!

What your coach is doing is against the Safe Sport program. It talks & explain about abuse Google Safe Sport & call them What your "coach" is doing is not correct Stand up for yourself & other youth that are being bullied by this coach IT IS NOT correct Call & talk to the safe sport people they are there for you & all adult & youth for help

I read all the responses so far, and they are helpful.
Very often when this happens it's because the clique` members feel threatened or anticipate threat. It is a sociological phenom of circling the wagons. Inside the circle there's a vicious pecking order which is not seen from the outside but can be painful when you are locked into the club. You do not want to be there. Sounds like your coach has the mentality of a freshman sorority sister with a pom pom.
Under these circumstances, it is better to be an outsider. You get an overall view of things that the members can't see. They don't like that. The irony is they put you outside where you have a better view, then they resent you for having smarts, so they keep you outside - where you will just get smarter.
I swim and love it. I'm sorry you are closed out, but there is more freedom on the outside.
Look up HSP (highly sensitive person) it's a (good) thing Alanis Morrisette. Read Jean Shinoda Bolen and Marion Woodman. Maybe Colin Wilson The Outsider. LMK 🙏🙂 Maybe the movie Animal House?😵‍💫

Sorry, not Animal House, I meant Revenge of the Nerds😄

The more you let then get to you the more they will do to push your buttons, if you enjoy swimming do the best you can if not find a different sport or join another group, in school study hard, give 100% on everything you do I know it’s easy for me to say ( I’m a guy at 73) but believe me was your age ones LOL believe me when I say, like a cloud this will pass, you got this, respect yourself don’t give a reason to your teacher to yell, ignore your bullies ( they hate that ) associated your self with people that supports you ( positive people) it may be only one or two but I guarantee this will make you a strong and resilient woman

Zzotte