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A poem for the weary hands of caregivers

Posted by Kim Webb @mrjohnwebb, Apr 21 12:07pm

Won’t Go Wasted

(For the weary hands of caregivers who believe in Him)

You did not ask for this road—
the quiet dying of your own needs
in the long shadow
of someone else’s pain.

You did not choose the breaking,
only the love
that made you stay.

But nothing
is lost in the hands of God.

Not the sleepless nights,
not the silent prayers
muttered in kitchen light,
not the tears that fell
where no one saw.

He gathers them all.
He knows the names
of your unseen efforts,
the strength it took
to not walk away.

This ache
is not the end of the story.

Even now,
He is turning sorrow into soil,
planting purpose
in the places
you thought were barren.

You are not forsaken.
You are being held.
And what you give—
even when it feels like breaking—
won’t go wasted.

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Lori, Volunteer Mentor | @loribmt | Apr 23 8:55am
In reply to @jmd2025 "Hi Lori, thank you for the welcome! I had been a full time caegiver for my..." + (show)
@jmd2025

Hi Lori, thank you for the welcome!
I had been a full time caegiver for my Dad (Alzheimers) and Mother (multiple diseases) who are deceased. Hubby has Neuropathy, pre diabetes, kidney disease, post surgery prostrate cancer (2017) , Hypothyroidism and just seems like so many of these new diseases popped up after the surgery. He is on BP meds, statins, so I try to advocate for him looking to aid him to feel better. He was on MetFormin but too many side effects after alternating this per Dr. instructions. He also alternates the Rosuvastatin because of the side effects (back pain, headaches, muscle aches). Now his Tinnitus got very bad while taking the MetFormin so he says he will not take that anymore, even though it did help the glucose, BP and weight loss. So its been challenging. I appreciate your email and hope you are managing wellness yourself after reading your profile.

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Good morning, @jmd2025. I really believe being a caregiver is one of the most challenging, yet rewarding, labors of love. I’ve been there myself and know there can definitely be some days filled with overwhelming, multifaceted emotions. You’ve already been through so much with your parents and your husband and then I read about your daughter’s passing.
I don't have words to fully express just how sorry I am to hear about your loss. It is a pain no parent should have to experience. Wishing you peace.

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jmd2025 | @jmd2025 | Apr 23 10:26am
In reply to @loribmt "Good morning, @jmd2025. I really believe being a caregiver is one of the most challenging, yet..." + (show)
@loribmt

Good morning, @jmd2025. I really believe being a caregiver is one of the most challenging, yet rewarding, labors of love. I’ve been there myself and know there can definitely be some days filled with overwhelming, multifaceted emotions. You’ve already been through so much with your parents and your husband and then I read about your daughter’s passing.
I don't have words to fully express just how sorry I am to hear about your loss. It is a pain no parent should have to experience. Wishing you peace.

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Thank you for your compassionate words Lori, my daughters loss is like a piece of my heart dies each day seeing how unfair that she is no longer here. She had a carotid pin hole leak the autopsy showed, she had been tired that past year and said her new doctor said she has a heart murmur. I wonder if her high BP during pregnancy had changed something causing her to feel so tired,... and it was COVID but they did not test her because they werent testng in February 2020. So many thoughts daily go through my head. I wanted her to get a blood test after she told me about the murmur but she was waiting for her insurance to kick in in March. I truly know how people can die of a broken heart. Be well.

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lfh | @lfh | Apr 23 11:29pm

Thank you for writing this beautiful poem that captures the essence and challenges of being caregiver. Your poem brought me a smile as well as a tear.

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sillyblone | @sillyblone | Apr 25 1:40pm
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@mrjohnwebb

I have been a part-time caregiver for my dad and full-time caregiver for my mother. Both are now deceased. My husband of 40 years now has Lewy Body Dementia. This is by far the hardest of the caregiving I have done. He was diagnosed 3 years ago and it is truly heartbreaking to see his daily struggle.

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Kim. Please remember that you care share as much or as little as you choose. I like this site for that reason. You can PM if you choose. Hugs

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sillyblone | @sillyblone | Apr 25 1:45pm
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@jmd2025

Thank you for your compassionate words Lori, my daughters loss is like a piece of my heart dies each day seeing how unfair that she is no longer here. She had a carotid pin hole leak the autopsy showed, she had been tired that past year and said her new doctor said she has a heart murmur. I wonder if her high BP during pregnancy had changed something causing her to feel so tired,... and it was COVID but they did not test her because they werent testng in February 2020. So many thoughts daily go through my head. I wanted her to get a blood test after she told me about the murmur but she was waiting for her insurance to kick in in March. I truly know how people can die of a broken heart. Be well.

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My heart goes out to you. God Bless you. I have never lost a child. I cannot imagine it at all. No that I have so much empathy for you and your family. Hugs

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jmd2025 | @jmd2025 | Apr 25 2:33pm
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@sillyblone

My heart goes out to you. God Bless you. I have never lost a child. I cannot imagine it at all. No that I have so much empathy for you and your family. Hugs

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Thank you, nobody can imagine this heartbreak, as we do not only hurt ourselves but seeing our granddaughter hurt as well. We had two sets of friends that lost their son/daughter and now I think OMG how they carried themselves throughout this heartbreak for over 20 years ....

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blbenson91 | @blbenson91 | May 1 9:33pm

Kim this is SO BEAUTIFUL! This is a true testament of the hearts of all caregivers no matter where you are in the journey your on. Wow!! Love this and bless you for expressing what we all feel into words only caregivers go thru as we care for those we love.
Blessings
Brenda

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brasmus | @brasmus | May 21 11:12am

Very helpful in the midst of very important menial task ridden days. Thanks for the bigger perspective.

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margui70 | @margui70 | May 21 1:32pm

Beautiful poem, thank you so much ! 😘🙏🏻😇

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