@celia16 he is open. He sees it. He gets that deer in headlights look a lot because this is so much. I cannot imagine what he is thinking and how he's feeling. A transition has happened in the last two weeks. I think the change with her dog, which we are managing well, I think...has triggered the change perhaps. Unfortunately, we believe her stubbornness has indirectly contributed to the health issues with her dog. She had bad ear infections over the past year and a half due to mom bathing her and getting water in her ears with the way she does things. She'd refuse to listen to us about pouring water over the dogs head to rinse her and she was bathing her too much. As soon as she was a little dirty- she'd fully bathe her versus just maybe cleaning her paws or just bathing her from her neck down. As a result we think the infections were really bothersome and the dog would not eat a lot, maybe due to fatigue, not feeling well, nausea etc. Overactivity plus no food = low blood sugar and she recently started having seizures. Two of which mom saw and she was freaking out. She has not been the same since. She's literally been out of it since then- just two weeks ago.
We went out today for lunch. We ordered our meals together. We sat down. She popped up. Went to the counter to order food. She said she hadn't ordered anything but a drink and dessert. We told her we ordered a veggie burger for her but she said "I told you I didnt want that. " Which did not happen. She said she was okay with what we ordered because that's what she always gets at this restaurant. We attempted to intervene but she was so adamant so dad said let it go, we don't want to embarass her. Unfortunately, she had a large bill and they offered to allow her to pay by card but she refused and came back to the table a little frustrated. She returned. We thought she had ordered something else but later we realized she didn't want to use her card. Then her meal that we had originally ordered came. She ate it like nothing happened, never mentioned that she didn't want it. In fact, we mentioned about the other meal and she said, "i didn't say that". Instead, she kept saying that they never brought her fries but her burger doesn't come with fries, ours did but not hers. We explained this but she brought it up a few times.
She has also seemed very off balance when walking and always chooses to wear shoes that are not helpful. You cannot encourage her to change often tomes. Sometimes she will but not today. The off balance is a lot lately too. I am so frightened that a fall is in the near future. I often take her arm and wrap it in mine when we are out. She's often so focused on everything else around her and trying to talk to everyone, and pick out everything she sees...that I am so scared shes gonna fall on her face. I need to encourage dad take her arm too when hes walking with her. I think he's just trying to cope and that really this is all so surreal for him. I think he's probably not sleeping well in addition to her disruptions because shes not sleeping. Really sad today because I feel like we don't have a lot of time. I'm worries about both of them really.