Hi @timerdude Nice to e-meet you here. I am glad you found Connect. We have a caregivers' group discussion here too. You can simply click here and follow the comments or join right in. https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers/

I was the primary caregiver for my wife for 14+ years, so at least in part, I understand your feelings of depression, being overwhelmed, and putting yourself and your interests on the backburner while you are caregiving. It is a challenging undertaking for certain.

I imagine you have seen this site by the VA for caregiving and PTSD http://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/family/partners-of-vets.asp.

I would also add that I am 65 so keep checking for a support group that might be of help and understanding. I have found some excellent support here at Connect and hope you find it the same.

Strength and courage!