Oh so sorry. That sounds so awful 🙁 I get angry to hear this...these drugs can be dangerous and not enough care is given in explaining risks.
I can share some drug horror stories...not osteoporosis drugs, but I suffered some really terrible outcomes from steroid injections given for pain from an injury. I lost teeth, I developed new allergies, got a fungal infection, ended up with stomach surgery...nightmare. I don't think drs know enough about what they are prescribing...some do, but you really have to do your own research I found.
And they don't ever consider size, weight for doses, or male vs female, etc.
I started hormones number one to help at least slow bone loss, because i knew i already had it. I knew I had a hard time with drugs. I wish I'd started sooner really...I think hormone imbalances were affecting my bone/muscle for years even before menopause symptoms really kicked in. They don't teach women well about any of this! Most drs are severely misinformed or have no idea how hormone loss affects every body system.
HRT helped me with sleep, energy, brain fog, heart racing, lowered my cholesterol..the works. But it was a rough road finding the right mix. And I may need to change it again down the road. I've read it's beneficial to start at any age, even if only a very small dose. You start small, work up. There's so many great videos and experts and forums and podcasts out there for menopause, and they do address many topics regarding this. But certainly it's not for everyone.
No thankfully I've not had a fracture...I hope I never do. But I do have a connective tissue disease with weakened fascia, muscle, bone, dura of the spinal cord. I've suffered chronic pain since my early 40s. I had spinal surgery last fall for a nerve root cyst impacting my bladder, causing pain, and pain from that trying to heal. It's hard to stomach taking another medicine to add to the pains you've suffered for so long.