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Geographical location affects you mentally?

Posted by robertwills @robertwills, Apr 7 10:12am

Has anyone move to a new geographical and after they got there was mentally uncomfortable, things didn't go well, they didn't make good decisions, etc.. But where you used to live was nothing like that?

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rashida | @rashida | 3 days ago
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@SusanEllen66

The flag was lowered. That’s why I took the picture.
It’s a State Park.

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@SusanEllen66 do you remember why it had been lowered?

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SusanEllen66 | @SusanEllen66 | 3 days ago
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@SusanEllen66 do you remember why it had been lowered?

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@rashida, yes. Every year on September 11, the American flag is lowered to honor the memory of the people who died on 911.

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SusanEllen66 | @SusanEllen66 | 3 days ago
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@robertwills

I only spent a few minutes at most looking at the rental situation and map of Long Island. That was enjoyable and interesting for me because as I indicated I have been to Long Island before, at least on a couple occasions many years ago. I remember the waves at Jones Beach were prefect for enjoyable the ocean. I would go again but for the same price, or lower, I could go to many other places in the world that are better suited to me.

I moved to be near a relative that has dementia. I know about the disease in general from reading about it and experiencing it however I have found that in practice it differs so significantly in people and there seems to be major exceptions. In the case of my relative as soon as they went into assisted living they reversed some of the symptoms due, I believe, to getting the right medication and being in a caring and stimulating environment. They say it's a progressive disease but I have seen with my own eyes a definite reversal. Now it's very stable where before it was definitely progressing.

So you never know what your future will be like. At least you are in Arizona with beautiful scenery, dry air and clear skies. At least I am near my relative but this geographical location is not a good environment for me, hence the reason for my original question. Geography can in fact have a profound effect on your life.

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@robertwills dementia comes in all shapes and sizes. For some of us it’s a rollercoaster. There is decline…improve, and then go down hill again, the up…

My own is slowly revealing itself, and until it does show more symptoms, my doctors ard not able to give me a diagnosis yet. They are leaning towards Frontotemporal Dementia. It’s the type actor Bruce Willis has.

Anyway, for yourself, there are so many informative videos on YouTube for the Caretaker. Some of the ones I have seen is called, “Careblazers”, and others by Teepa Snow. She is an expert! An organization named Dementia Action Alliance DAA is helping me. I attend ZOOM meetings with them.
There is a group here on Mayo Connect for Caretakers.
Your family member is blessed to have you.

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rashida | @rashida | 3 days ago
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@SusanEllen66

@rashida, yes. Every year on September 11, the American flag is lowered to honor the memory of the people who died on 911.

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@SusanEllen66 of course! I should have known that - that was a stupid question on my part!

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robertwills | @robertwills | 3 days ago
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@SusanEllen66 of course! I should have known that - that was a stupid question on my part!

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I thought you might be testing her cognitive ability. Maybe you need to be tested! Maybe I do, too!

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rashida | @rashida | 2 days ago
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@robertwills

I thought you might be testing her cognitive ability. Maybe you need to be tested! Maybe I do, too!

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@robertwills no Robert, I do not play such games. I can be pretty clueless sometimes, and at those times something very obvious can just go over my head.

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SusanEllen66 | @SusanEllen66 | 2 days ago
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@robertwills

I thought you might be testing her cognitive ability. Maybe you need to be tested! Maybe I do, too!

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@robertwills I don’t require any more testing. I’m alive and kicking.

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kb2014 | @kb2014 | 1 day ago
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Interesting you are in Prescott and a friend did not like it and moved back to Montana and another family member moved to Colorado. The world is not anything like it was 20 years ago, and many are running away only to find that we have to face the consequences of our decisions. I hope everyone can rely on each other to get them through challenges of moving and change and then take a deep breath and look at our real motivation for moving. No place is perfect now, we just need to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses and what is most comfortable for us person. It’s okay to make mistakes, we’re not perfect.

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I live in Reserve NM. Moved to Albuquerque NM in 2021 with my husband.He retired in 2023 so we bought an rv and now live in Reserve NM. My life long home state was MO.The climate in NM is an ongoing adaption to change. The poltical environment the scapegoating etc is getting to me. I would not move or leave except to be closer to health care and my husband and I are discussing and trying to plan. Life is not what it was like 20 years ago. Not even like it was in 2019. I just want everyone to be safe at peace and healthy for as long as possible.I do think something bad has happened to humanity in the US.Something very toxic and negative

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robertwills | @robertwills | 1 day ago
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@kb2014

I live in Reserve NM. Moved to Albuquerque NM in 2021 with my husband.He retired in 2023 so we bought an rv and now live in Reserve NM. My life long home state was MO.The climate in NM is an ongoing adaption to change. The poltical environment the scapegoating etc is getting to me. I would not move or leave except to be closer to health care and my husband and I are discussing and trying to plan. Life is not what it was like 20 years ago. Not even like it was in 2019. I just want everyone to be safe at peace and healthy for as long as possible.I do think something bad has happened to humanity in the US.Something very toxic and negative

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These times are indeed vastly different and the feeling of safety anywhere, in including in my home, are gone. I don't think we actually felt safe back then because there was absolutely no danger so how could we know what "safe" was?. For example, I remember when the doorbell rang, everyone in my family would literally run to the door to find out who it was, be the first there to greet them and not even look out the peephole!. We just immediately opened the door with big smiles on our faces. That was many years ago. Today if the doorbell rings everyone inside looks around nervously, we whisper "Who could that be?" and we try to sneak a peak out a window to see who it is. What a difference! What a way to live! What in the world happened?

There are lots of people though trying to bring back, and increase, happiness and they way it used to be. I try to do it in all my social interactions but the problem is it's often not reciprocated.

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