Geographical location affects you mentally?

Posted by robertwills @robertwills, Apr 7 10:12am

Has anyone move to a new geographical and after they got there was mentally uncomfortable, things didn't go well, they didn't make good decisions, etc.. But where you used to live was nothing like that?

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@machelle

Yes and I can’t mentally adjust to the current environment that I live. I grew up in northern Idaho, moved away and returned 30 years later to retire. After living there for 12 years, I decided to move due to the political environment and the challenges that came with the enormous population growth that occurred during the pandemic. To accommodate this growth, farmland was sold to build thousands of tract homes, multi million builds on riverfront and lakefront properties erased the beautiful views from local bike and walking trails and additional roads were constructed. A once known small sleepy area had transformed into one with increased traffic, crime, bigotry and created a huge gap in wealth. So I moved to Prescott, AZ hoping to experience a little of the colder weather as well as the warmer temps during the winter months. It’s been a challenge and one that I regret. I miss the mountains, the trees and real green grass and the political environment isn’t any better. So I’m back to looking elsewhere like Colorado or Oregon.

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Interesting you are in Prescott and a friend did not like it and moved back to Montana and another family member moved to Colorado. The world is not anything like it was 20 years ago, and many are running away only to find that we have to face the consequences of our decisions. I hope everyone can rely on each other to get them through challenges of moving and change and then take a deep breath and look at our real motivation for moving. No place is perfect now, we just need to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses and what is most comfortable for us person. It’s okay to make mistakes, we’re not perfect.

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@machelle

Yes and I can’t mentally adjust to the current environment that I live. I grew up in northern Idaho, moved away and returned 30 years later to retire. After living there for 12 years, I decided to move due to the political environment and the challenges that came with the enormous population growth that occurred during the pandemic. To accommodate this growth, farmland was sold to build thousands of tract homes, multi million builds on riverfront and lakefront properties erased the beautiful views from local bike and walking trails and additional roads were constructed. A once known small sleepy area had transformed into one with increased traffic, crime, bigotry and created a huge gap in wealth. So I moved to Prescott, AZ hoping to experience a little of the colder weather as well as the warmer temps during the winter months. It’s been a challenge and one that I regret. I miss the mountains, the trees and real green grass and the political environment isn’t any better. So I’m back to looking elsewhere like Colorado or Oregon.

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After our older sister died in August of 2020 here in the PNW, her husband emptied out the house, sold it, and moved to Prescott as well. He rented a place while his "new" home was built, and then moved in when it was done. He moved away from his kids, his daughter lives here in WA. state, his son is in CA., and his older brother had just moved up here from L.A. at the time to be closer to him.
He's down there alone. Neither one of his kids are going to have kids of their own, so no grandkids in the future.
What's so special about Prescott, AZ. that makes a man bail out on his family like this?

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@blt50

Interesting you are in Prescott and a friend did not like it and moved back to Montana and another family member moved to Colorado. The world is not anything like it was 20 years ago, and many are running away only to find that we have to face the consequences of our decisions. I hope everyone can rely on each other to get them through challenges of moving and change and then take a deep breath and look at our real motivation for moving. No place is perfect now, we just need to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses and what is most comfortable for us person. It’s okay to make mistakes, we’re not perfect.

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Hmmm, I’m not sure what to make of your message. To clarify I didn’t run away from Idaho. Because of my job, I moved every 3-4 years so I’ve lived in various US states and internationally. Even though I enjoyed the communities I resided, none of these locations had what ID had. When I returned, I lived there for 6 years before the dramatic changes became too overwhelming to live with. My mental health was deteriorating and I knew it was time to move on. In retrospect, I should have rented for a while but I was anxious to get settled. Anyway, I do appreciate your supportive words of making mistakes…”

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@machelle

Hmmm, I’m not sure what to make of your message. To clarify I didn’t run away from Idaho. Because of my job, I moved every 3-4 years so I’ve lived in various US states and internationally. Even though I enjoyed the communities I resided, none of these locations had what ID had. When I returned, I lived there for 6 years before the dramatic changes became too overwhelming to live with. My mental health was deteriorating and I knew it was time to move on. In retrospect, I should have rented for a while but I was anxious to get settled. Anyway, I do appreciate your supportive words of making mistakes…”

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My apologies on running away, I was just expressing that as a possibility as sometimes we all want to run away from something. For me it was weather and sunshine I needed more of. I struggle with depression and weather really has an affect on that. Have a good rest of your day.

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@blt50

My apologies on running away, I was just expressing that as a possibility as sometimes we all want to run away from something. For me it was weather and sunshine I needed more of. I struggle with depression and weather really has an affect on that. Have a good rest of your day.

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I definitely noticed in the way I feel in the winter when I moved from a dark, cold place with low daylight hours to one that had far more sunshine, was warmer and with longer daylight. I didn't get that full "depression" that comes in early December every year. I should have went to Australia in the winter! I would have felt great!

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Yeah, when the sun comes out I feel like someone turned on my happy place. I was in Australia during their winter, it was cold and windy but loved the people there. Was a bucket list item come true.

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@blt50

Yeah, when the sun comes out I feel like someone turned on my happy place. I was in Australia during their winter, it was cold and windy but loved the people there. Was a bucket list item come true.

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The Australian winter, like Brisbane and all the way south to Adelaide, is almost perfect to me. In Brisbane it's 70F in the day and 50F at night with mostly clear, sunny skies every day. The daylight is short however. The summer there is miserable with heat and high humidity. Adelaide and Perth have Mediterranean climates with low humidity and the warm to hot summers, which is nice beach weather!

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Almost 40 years ago, my husband and I moved from the south shore of Long Island, New York, USA to the Sonoran Desert in Arizona, USA. Going from an area of beautiful beaches along the coast of the Atlantic Ocean, and only 25 miles from New York City to the desert in Phoenix, AZ was incredibly heart wrenching for me. It took me 3 years to adjust. I have and am happy here now.

The hardest part of living here is the never ending, bright sunshine. Sounds crazy, but endless, predictable sun and no humidity to speak of, equals, fried eyes, brains, burnt hands, and sunburns (for the visitors)!

Oh, the summer temps are nothing to smirk at. The end of June through July we have continuous days or weeks of 110-118°F.
That keeps the tourists away for a while…

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@SusanEllen66

Almost 40 years ago, my husband and I moved from the south shore of Long Island, New York, USA to the Sonoran Desert in Arizona, USA. Going from an area of beautiful beaches along the coast of the Atlantic Ocean, and only 25 miles from New York City to the desert in Phoenix, AZ was incredibly heart wrenching for me. It took me 3 years to adjust. I have and am happy here now.

The hardest part of living here is the never ending, bright sunshine. Sounds crazy, but endless, predictable sun and no humidity to speak of, equals, fried eyes, brains, burnt hands, and sunburns (for the visitors)!

Oh, the summer temps are nothing to smirk at. The end of June through July we have continuous days or weeks of 110-118°F.
That keeps the tourists away for a while…

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The way to do it, if possible, is to leave at the end of June and stay in Long Island until September or October. Certainly Long Island weather is bearable almost every day during this time. It's also perfect beach weather and the ocean is at it's warmest then!

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@robertwills

The way to do it, if possible, is to leave at the end of June and stay in Long Island until September or October. Certainly Long Island weather is bearable almost every day during this time. It's also perfect beach weather and the ocean is at it's warmest then!

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@robertwills of course that would be ideal, if I could afford having a place on Long Island too…

That’s not going to happen. The cost of living there is through the roof.

Nice thought…

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