MOJO,

Thank you sooooo much! We lost my brother in law (hubby's brother) a little over 2 years ago from a stroke that was due to side effects from his appendix and "jelly belly" cancer. EVERYTHING about his cancer, treatment etc was broadcast for lack of a better term. Widow sis in law (who is also feiends with my hubbys ex fiance) had decreased her posts about how much she missed him until she found out my hubs has cancer now. The fb posts ramped right back up, almost like she has tonstaynin the spot light. Hubby and I are the polar opposite. We keep things very private. The day of his biopsy, labs, 2 nd scope and CT confirming it was cancer all his mom could say "well that's not the news we wanted to hear". Of course it's not but it could of been much much worse news. And all she could focus on was tellin widow sis in law which she bulldozed over me and hubby to do. Anyway, she kept texting him asking how he was doing wich is innocent enough but he tried telling her he wanted to do things like he normally does. So she texts wanting to know his treatment days / time etc. He had not even had the PET scan done or ANY of the lab results back yet. So i texted her, sort of pitting her back in her lane. Neither of us had heard out of her or ANY of his family since then but w also dis not share any details to them either. Fast forward to last week, gave our daughter permission to be the contact oerson for them. She ket them know his dx, treatment plans, that he dies NOT want to talk about the cancer etc but would love to hear from them about anything else. She and us have not heard a word from his side and it is a shane because he needs to feel loved and supported. As a spouse it is hell seeing someone you live go thru something like this and there is nothing you can do to stop it. I hate that they inject him with toxic chemicals but i cant stop it, i cant stop what it will do to him. All i can do is be there for him however he needs me. I had a full blown panick attack Tuesday at the Chemo place. I could not watch them put his IV in because I knew what would follow and ai cried the entire time. I have been struggeling with him having to have chemo since they told us. I don know what it is but I just feel in my soul that Chemo is not what he needs. I am not a dr but the radiation dr did check and he can have turmeric and curcumin in small doses. So inwas not entirely wring on that par at least. Sorry to ramble.