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How hard is living with a toxic parent ??
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I grew up with a shrew. It is difficult to call her a mother. She was abusive in many ways. I later found out that many in my family knew what she was doing to me but no one intervened. Finally I had the courage to leave and I did. I went thousands of miles away. She was pissed because she thought people would think bad of her. Notice she only thought of herself, not me. Anyway I was in a strange city, but I found a job and a place to live and started to live a new life. A year after my move I met the man who was to become my husband for 59 years. She came to visit. I was a married woman with children and still she verbally abused me and put me down. Again I found courage to tell her to her face that I was through with her. That I did not want to ever see her again or speak to her - and I didn't. Many years have now passed. I am 90 years old and even with therapy there are still scars. My therapist diagnosed me with PTSD due to child abuse. Still I go on even though my beloved husband died 3 years ago. I sum myself up as a survivor.
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Hi Marilyn,
How awful for you to have such an uncaring mother! That must have been so terrible for you. And your family aware of the situation and not intervening! I had a similar situation growing up with my alcoholic father. He drank up all the money and Mom and I lived in virtual poverty because of it! The whole family knew he was in the bar every night and Mom and I often had very little food for dinner but they never interfered either. He was their favorite. Mom and I finally left and life became good again. I'm glad you had the nerve to leave your situation too. And then, had a wonderful marriage for 59 years! How nice! I'm sorry your husband died but at least you had that time with him. My husband died also in July. We were married 30 wonderful years. A month before my husband died, my good friend died and even the neighbor's cat that really liked me died! I've often asked God, "How come I got left behind?" I miss my husband a lot as I'm sure you miss your husband a lot also. But we will both be reunited with our husbands in Heaven when God finally calls us home. We just need to remember that and keep praying.
I wish you the best.
PML
You are a survivor.
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