That is a very good point @chattykathy. I have not looked at transplants the same way I do disabilities. A college age family member has a disabitliy (Ankylosing Spondylitis - form or RA) and we have experienced many well meaning, but ignorant, comments regarding her illness. My husband and I had the same experience when our first daughter passed away at 7 months. Comments like, "You're young, you can have more children," were meant to be encouraging but hurt instead. What I have learned from those two situations is that people are ignorant and society is not comfortable when others are hurting. Most people want to fix things and when they can't they just avoid the subject. It is a sad statement about our society but thank you for helping me look at the education I have to do with others in a different light.