Hi .... I don't want to be intrusive, but is your father competent to make all the decisions he needs to? If he is, then he surely must see that you are the one that lives there, helping him, and doing what needs to be done. But, I know how N's are .... if you don't know about them, you're easily fooled. My X has a sister who lived 5 miles away from their mother. His sister did all sorts of things for mother ... took her to doctors, shopping, bought her things she needed, etc. But, sister was the "one I never did get along with" (says mother) and my X was golden boy ...." he never gave me a bit of trouble!" Holy Cow! They really appear to be just so very wonderful, but that's all the cover of the book ..... the book itself isn't worth the time.
abby