How do you respond to this?

Oh, that is very inspiring!! My daughter is also HER-2 positive, has had one infusion, had her 4th vertebrae replaced and is halfway through her radiation treatment (10x). She is also taking Kisqali and Letrozole. So far, so good, she is not having any problems with the radiation or pills. She is very stoic and is determined to fight this as long as possible. The oncologist has not mentioned mastectomy or chemo yet, so we don't know what's next. All we know is that we're very lucky to have a team of skilled physicians on our side, who really seem to care.

I will see if our library has it! If not, I'll try Amazon. Thanks!

I am so sorry your Daughter had to deal with this person's ignorance or lack of empathy. She has enough to deal with without explaining her actions and worse having to defend herself to someone who obviously has no clue. I am a Breast Cancer Survivor, diagnosed with stage 1 ductal carcinoma in 2023 and I assure you where my tumor was found I never would have felt it! I have cystic, dense breast and have been doing annual mammograms from the age of 37 when I felt my first lump. I have religiously had annual mammograms- screening & diagnostic, ultrasounds, biopsies over the course of the past 15 plus years and yet despite my vigilant self care, it did not prevent this unwelcomed intrusion. This journey took me down a very unfamiliar path, one in which I could not explain over half of what I was learning, but I had to endure the experience of lack of support and cancer ghosting from family & friends who I just knew would stand by my side. Now that I'm in remission (and thank God for early detection), I can look back and clearly see that most just didn't know how to deal with this matter so they didn't, and it was mostly out of there own insecurities and fears. Their lack of support caused me to severe many relationships including my husband who literally pushed me aside as if I wasn't lying in the same bed with him and he was front and center witnessing the psychological, emotional, physical changes I endured as a result of surgeries, radiation treatment, chronic fatigue etc. Needless to say and to answer your question of how to respond to this?...My resolve was I cut every one of them out of my life, including the husband! Ignorance or not, it's no excuse for a person to not show compassion, understanding or just mere decent humanity towards someone receiving this type of diagnosis. But this clearly will call for your daughter to evaluate if her relationship with this person is one of importance, and if so, she must let her know how this made her feel and hopefully the friend will see the error of her ways and take a different approach to being a supportive friend.

I think ignorant, thoughtless people who say things like that do it so that they find a way to be sure it won’t happen to them. They will do all the appropriate things (mammograms etc.) and it will ensure they will avoid breast cancer.
It doesn’t necessarily work that way, you can do your due diligence and still things get missed. Cut her out of your life! She is toxic.

Bless you and good luck.

Omg! Your husband failed you when you needed him most! I couldn’t even imagine how it felt when the ones who were supposed to be there for you failed to do so during your darkest days. I’m glad you cut them out of your life. I would have done the same. You’re right. There is no excuse for lack of compassion, especially from friends and family. Those aren’t friends or family. Even animals show compassion. (I witnessed my guppy coached his/her mate to swim when its mate was sinking from illness). I’m glad that you found the lump and now in remission. I hope you find comfort here. We’re on the same boat and we are here for one another. 🤗

Oops, my message is for @mwinters67.

@myoga, I received your message and truly appreciate your support and encouraging words! Blessingsmyoga I received your message and truly appreciate your support and encouraging words! Blessings!