Ginger, Thank you for reply and insights. Recovery from the Ileal conduit procedure I'm told is 3-4 weeks. The Transplant team would much prefer me to have this done in advance of a transplant. Yes, I can undergo dialysis with my existing kidney if needed. Currently if my native kidney were to fail, I would have to go back to dialysis. (I was on dialysis for 18 months 3 years ago). Either my existing graft would be used (it needs to be unblocked from lack of usage) or in an emergency I would have to have a port added. If they were to call next week and offer a kidney, we would need to have both procedures done at the same time. The Transplant Team can do this but would prefer not to.
I hope your husband and you are enjoying an improved QoL after his transplant. I have read a number of post-transplant stories online that give me hope I can go through all of this and do the same. Thanks for your input. It is truly appreciated.