Hi all, (a month of waiting later) Good advice from @lls8000 about waiting and the difficulties and benefits.
I met the surgeon. she is confident and warm, exactly what I was hoping for. She gave me the options of waiting or doing radiation but said she didn't recommend them. She has a plan that sounds good to me. She can do a wedge resection, no problem. This is what the pulmonologist had thought might be impossible. So she'll do that. If the nodule is sticking to the aorta, a cardiac surgeon will come in to assist. If the lab says the nodule is cancerous, she'll cut out the segment or the maybe the whole LL lobe. She'll use a robot and a 3-d imaging system. It will be minimally invasive surgery. It doesn't sound as bad as it did at first. Now another month of waiting until surgery day- May 2. Thanks for reading and thanks for all the support.