Hi all .... well I got a reply back from my X and he just poured it on, and then gave me "the lecture" about all sorts of things. He didn't have a crooked F.P. in his life so he's living great. But, no ... he can't help out each month, and "am I trying to make him feel guilty because I gave up the alimony?" No, but the point is I need something now. Anyhow, after some back and forth-ing, it ended on a sour note. I'm going to contact my attorney via e-mail and see if there is any possibility of this case being re-opened since my financial situation has changed drastically. I hate to even think about that, but he's not giving me any choice. My lawyer told me when we were going through this first time around that after 40 years - staying home 30+ of those years to raise the kids, I could take him for all he had. I was not about to do that, but now I wish I had followed her advice and not been so "nice" about not having him pay any alimony.
I really wish I'd have never moved down here. The only plus is I see my girls about once a week ... otherwise, NADA.
abby

amberpep personally I have been in situations where my alternative were do nothing and ignore the attacks of others or respond and defend myself. I have found more times than not ignoring a bad situation hoping it will just turn out ok or for the better never worked for me. So for better or worse and knowing that a fight will happen and I will be way out of my comfort zone, One way or another I got prevailed. So I do understand your wish not to make waves in the past. And how did it work out for you? So go forward and get your needs met. it might be a painful process but in the end I think it will be good for you. Again good luck

Thank you safetyshield for your input. Yes, I have to pick my battles, that's for sure. I got my divorce papers out and am plodding through them to see if it says anything relative to this .... probably not, but you never know. If this should get re-opened, the whole family would be down my throat ..... not that I have much family ... just me, my 3 kids, and 2 of them are married - one with 2 kids ..... otherwise, I was an only child, parents are dead as is everyone else. I may have said this before, but I got into a debt consolidation program where I pay a certain much smaller amount, once a month, and somehow they work it out with the creditors to get agreement. I would imagine they're pretty busy right now with the economy the way it is. I know a lot of women primarily who are in the same situation. One lady I've come to know is moving in with her son. We're all in our 60's or 70's and I don't think any of us thought this is how life would be at this point.
abby