I am going to make this as brief as I can and eliminate some things just in case someone I know sees it. I have been divorced for 12 years, after a 40 year marriage and 3 kids. At the time, I had a large inheritance from a family member, so I did not ask that he pay me anything each month … I didn’t feel I needed it and it would just be greedy. My lawyer disagreed. Well, I got a Fin. Plnr. who was a small-town version of Bernie Madolff, and I plus many, many, others lost at least 3/4 or more of what we had … we have no recourse. Here I am, pinching every penny, counting every cent, not going anywhere, while he is taking big trips and has built a huge house for himself. I was trying to be considerate when I asked for nothing at the divorce … now it smacks me in the face. I wrote him and asked him if he would consider pitching in some money each month to make things a bit easier for me. He knows I’m struggling. I have not heard anything, and I have a sense I won’t. He has NPD and it’s all about him. I’m soon to be 72, looking for a job, but it’s not easy finding something at this age (they say they don’t discriminate …. that’s a lot of malarky!). I have moved here to be closer to my kids, but still own a home in another state. If I don’t get any help from him, I’ll just have to move back … I can’t deal with 2 places even though the other is rented. I can’t sell the other one due to the crash of 2008 and now I owe what it would sell for, so I would make nothing from it.
Just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening.
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