← Return to burnout..... over and over again. 25 years of marriage and still in

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I understand about not wanting to start over. However, that’s life sometimes we have to for our own good. It sounds like you are doing an outstanding job and being the best caregiver. More men need to be like you!!! Know when to walk away for your mental health and well being before something happens to you physically from your wife or health wise from stress. Be blessed God knows all of what you are doing and how you are there for her. Lots of hugs don’t give up on you. You have options it may be hard do what is best for you

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A lot has happened since my last post. On May 29, I found time to have a heart attack. Doctor said it was a widower makers, 70/80 precent blockage. Simple fix was two stents and 3 days rest in the hospital being waited on. My PDSD kicked in with being restricted by wires in IV lines so they let me go home.
Things are the same here, Wife’s caseworker came by checking on us and offered any help we asked. Following up with doctors and test. Been wearing a heart monitor from 2 weeks. Keep having to change my contacts due to working on the yard. Now I have an open sore about the size of a quarter from pulling my skin off.🤣. I’m still here helping her and it’s because on May 29 I woke up knowing I was having the big one, been taking BP while I waited for an appointment in August 2025.
Being a Fire captain and EMT I had a BP of 197/120 and pulse had dropped from 54 to 42 I figured my time was running out. When my wife saw me she wanted to call 911. But I said I’m going to lay down knowing it would be it for me.
Laying there knowing all my pain will be gone, not having to watch and feel my old body wasting away. And I know I did way best.
GOD spoke to me! Get your ASS up and get to the hospital now. I convinced my wife I was ok so she’ll let me drive. After 1 hour and 15 minutes we arrived at the hospital. It was busy…. Checked in and I let them know I was having a heart attack. We sat 20 minutes more in the waiting room. With-in the a hour the doctor had put in the two stents in and back in my room.
I feel positive and still love my wife. Sure wish she felt the same all the time.
Going to do my best but knowing I choosed being here careing for my wife is different now. I picked hanging around longer and work a little harder figuring what comes next.
Thanks for listening to me carrying on. We’ll be ok and bless everyone out there.
God is always there waiting to listen to us. ❤️🙏👍🦋🌈☮️