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Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: 2 days ago | Replies (13)
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Hi,
What a sad situation you have! That is too bad. My son hasn't spoken to me in 27 years and I'm not sure why. It seems to be a trend in today's world. My husband recently died of lung cancer and none of his 3 kids would come to see him or even call. It sounds like you have a wonderful husband. He seems very caring. Concentrate on him and forget your ungrateful children. Also put all your feelings and hurt in God's hands. Just talk to God like he's your best friend and he is! You don't have to go to church to find God; although that's a nice thing to do. But he's right there anytime you ask. God will get you through this difficult time.

I'll say a prayer for you also.
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meno | @meno | 5 days ago

I really feel what you feel. My oldest son was raised by his grandparents, and raised them to dislike me. My wife forced us to live with them, because she felt insecure without them. My other three children were not, they allowed them to stay with us at times, the reason being fairly credible, partly because both my wife and I worked.

My youngest son committed suicide and my youngest daughter was od’d by phenyanyl out of jealousy, they both used.

My oldest son has begged me to come to live with us , going through a divorce, and he looked appreciative, but now he has stopped talking to me, and shows signs of an outdated oedipus complex, hating me if she shows more feelings to me then him.

I am 80 years old, my wife 71, and she is trying to manipulate us within the context of this situation.

At one time I told my son I do love him, but really don’t like him.

I have partially taken care of his four grandchildren, and we get along, and they are on to collage next year, hoping they will be ok in spite of all this upheaval.

I try to stop this silent treatment, by being the first to come from a ‘higher ground’, and he does react minimally at first, but after a very short time he clams up again.

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