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Anyone dealing with a spouse or partner who is an alcoholic?
Addiction & Recovery | Last Active: Jun 13 11:43am | Replies (21)Comment receiving replies
@mic129, as you can see from the replies from fellow members, you are not alone. Unfortunately, many have a loved one struggling with addiction, and they may admit they have a problem and often they don't.
Here are two links from related discussions with helpful tips and information,
- How to help someone recognize they need help? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/how-to-help-someone-recognize-they-need-help/
- Any online support groups for family members of Alcohol Use Disorder? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/any-on-line-support-groups-for-family-of-pt-w-alcohol-use-disorder/
In addition to the comments from @imallears @willow5 and @nadanoel, I'm also tagging @michelle0517 and @rowt2 to share their coping skills to get through tough times and situations of a loved one in active addiction.
@mic129, there are services and organizations, as Mary mentions, that can help you navigate the financial constraints keeping you in the relationship. You also mention that you feel you cannot remove yourself emotionally from the situation. Can you explain a bit more. What is tying you emotionally to make a change?
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Does anyone ever notice that in all discussions we all talk about the victims of the addict what the addict is causing everyone? Shouldn't we also question the addict like hey why is he/she drinking so much what happened in there life that made then use to numb or try to numb what is it they need to come to terms with look me of all people get the victim part I do I was one and I'm also on the other side too but 9 times out of 10 the addict is being enabled by the same person calling victim so in all actuality the "victim" is bring it on correct 🤔 I'm just asking for all sides not trying to be rood or disrespectful at all I am struggling with alcohol myself I'm currently on day 2 of no drinking and all I want to do is get completely trashed right now n not have to think about life
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I want to simply say, I love him but I feel it’s getting to the point where that isn’t enough anymore. Part of me doesn’t want to be alone, I’m afraid I can’t make it on my own and don’t want to be a burden on my children. My thoughts and feelings are all over the place. I’m also afraid of what will happen to him.