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Caregiver for Spouse with Alzheimers - How can I Survive?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Mar 31 11:50am | Replies (16)Comment receiving replies
We're not bored. It seems like you are not well matched with this expensive facility. I don't know how locked in you are, and with all of the turmoil of this year, another change now might not be the best for you. But you should at the least be able to get away.
It can be tough because you love the guy and you know more than anyone in the world about what he needs and what comfort him. But taking a class or seeing a movie, a long walk you need to be able to step away. And luckily your son wanted you close to help you facilitate the things that you and your husband need.
If you can, slowly start looking for a place with fewer restrictions. Wanting a place where you can cook is such a small desire. Don't ask yourself to stop living.
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Thanks so much for your suggestions.
I do need, however, to explain my health concerns.
January 2025, because of my imbalance, I took a nasty fall while my husband was hospitalized for pneumonia. Well, long story short, the senior facility called 911, and an ambulance whisked me away to the local ER. From there I ended up having surgery for a broken hip, as well as a broken femur.
As a result of this, I am now in a wheelchair and am receiving PT every 2 weeks. Of course, my goal is to be able to walk with my walker (as I did before) with a cane. I don’t see in my future being able to walk without assistance, a harsh realization.
I say all this because of your suggestion to take a walk. Believe me, I’d love to! When my femur heals which was, without a doubt, the worst injury, I do plan to get outside and enjoy nature, on my walker! As it is now, this facility has a “Fitness Room” with a few dumbbells and a couple of recumbent bikes. I drag my husband there at least 3x a week. It’s kind of funny - it appears we’re the only residents who use it. I guess no one else is interested, but I’ve been working out 30 years, and although it’s a far cry from what I’m used to, I’m just not ready to completely give it up.
Since I’m not locked in to a lease, I am still looking for a place to live that would allow me to at least indulge some of my desires, while at the same time providing the care we both need.
Thank you, again.