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I may have low grade lymphoma or it could be from inflammation
Blood Cancers & Disorders | Last Active: Mar 30 8:10am | Replies (60)Comment receiving replies
Thanks, Lori, for the hug, comments and future support. Yes, it has been difficult at times, not to clue in my wife but this is best told in person rather than over the phone. So, Thursday afternoon or evening will have to be the soonest. At least some of her other family members are doing better and being able to give her some solid information about what I have learned so far will help her focus. Best of all, she’ll get the option of being able to accompany me to the oncologist appointment and ask all the questions she is good at asking and I never think to ask.
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I agree, this isn’t a conversation to have over the phone and can sure appreciate the time frame between your wife’s arrival home and the appointment the next morning. Tight squeeze to find time to be subtle! Having her go along to the appointment will be good, not only for you, for moral support, but also for her to get everything first hand. Plus, at least in my case, having my partner along gave that all important 2nd set of ears. Like you said, she’ll ask questions you didn’t think to ask…I can totally relate to that! 😁 Having a little notepad along for jotting down key points can be helpful and if you have your own questions, the notepad serves as a reference to keep the conversation on track.
It will feel like a long week until Thursday (and Friday)…
In the meantime, distraction is an important tool to refocusing negative thoughts. It’s not easy when you’ve been living in a period of uncertainty for the past month between discovery, diagnosis and not being able to share with your wife. It weighs heavily on the mind. It’s important to focus on the future, occupy idle time with meaningful, relaxing activities that you enjoy. It really can help calm the inner turmoil.