Sudden loss of my daughter

Fala,
I'm glad that I could help a little. If you ever just want to talk I'm here.
I'll continue to remember you in my prayers.
PML

I am so sorry for your loss. We live in North Florida and my daughter has end stage renal disease and various complications from meds and surgeries. Care here is not much better. You are in my prayers.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Losing a child—no matter their age—is an unimaginable pain, one I sadly understand all too well, having lost my son nearly six years ago. The grief is overwhelming, and there are no words that can truly ease the heartbreak of losing someone so deeply loved.
Your daughter sounded like a strong and determined person, overcoming cancer and continuing to live independently. It must be devastating to know that she suffered and felt unheard in her final days. No one should ever experience neglect in medical care, and I can only imagine the frustration and sorrow you must feel. If you have concerns about what happened, you deserve answers and support in navigating this painful situation.
Please know you are not alone in your grief. The journey is incredibly difficult, but there are people who understand. The Compassionate Friends is a peer support group for those who have lost a child, and they have been a source of comfort for me and many grieving parents. Connecting with others who genuinely understand can sometimes help lighten the unbearable weight, even if just a little.
My heart is with you in this devastating time. Please be gentle with yourself and know that you are not alone.

Thank you!!! I have been emailing this night owl...a guy who was her computer help and had a key. There is no family for my daughter down there, but she had a very good friend across her street. My daughter traveled across the country training guys to become Jockeys. ( (I think mostly guys do that?) She starting riding about 4, and only lost her seat when the horse went under a tree branch and the branch knocked her off. Then later she stayed on this huge horse way too long while it was bucking...back injury!! She NEVER got thrown off a horse!...but that time she did get her back injured! Then she trained dogs and was super good at it!! It is after midnight and I know it will be a while to go to sleep! Thanks for the note. You can share this if you'd like!
Thanks for caring. She was the sweetest, most kind, (not ever had a fight with this one) daughter!
It's midnight here and I need to try to get some sleep...(I doubt it) Thanks again 🙁

I just read your post and trying to find my own path toward accepting my 43 year old daughter’s sudden death on 12/28/25 from a massive pulmonary embolism. She was on life support and brain dead. The only positive blessing is she was a donor and her heart, lungs, kidney, and liver, were all successfully given to people who might live because of her selfless gift. Her heart is now beating in man in No. CA. My baby girl, I miss her and feel like I am existing in a fog.

@soareagle62 Shucks, soareagle62 that's a terrible thing to happen over the holiday, not that it is nice any other time. I think I sense some pride and joy in your daughter, despite her shortened life. I'm sure she felt the same way about you and your example. God bless, and may you find a way to climb out of it to clear skies again.

@soareagle62
I'm so sorry that your daughter died recently. That is so hard for you. It's wonderful that her organs were donated to help others live. Your daughter is up in Heaven with God and Jesus and all the angels and any loved ones who went before her. You will be reunited with her eventually in God's time. It's just hard being alone. My husband died in 2024 from lung cancer so I know how difficult it is to lose a loved one. But I also know that my husband and I will be reunited again in Heaven. Remember in the Bible, Jesus said, "I go to prepare a place for you." And he did exactly that!
Remember all the wonderful times you had with your daughter and cherish them and I know you do. Ask God for help during this terrible time. He will be there for you. God helped me a lot after my husband died and is still helping me.
I have time if you need to talk. I will say a prayer for you.
PML

@soareagle62, welcome. I'm tagging @fala and @ihtak46 who know first-hand what it is like to lose a daughter unexpectedly. @dawn_giacabazi also knows the dual emotions of loss and giving the gift of life to others through the loss of a family member.

I can imagine you're moving through the motions in a fog right now. It's hard to make sense of anything. Be kind with yourself. Do you have grief support near you? Did you know that local hospices offer grief support even though your daugther was never in hospice. You do not have to journey this alone.

@soareagle62, what would you like us to know about your daughter?

@colleenyoung Thank you for drawing my attention to this post 💜. @soareagle62 I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your daughter. What you went through — the suddenness, the hospital, the life support, and then the decision to donate — all of that happens so fast that the heart and the mind can’t keep pace. The fog you describe is a very real part of traumatic grief.
Your daughter’s gift was extraordinary. Because of her, hearts are beating, lungs are breathing, and lives are continuing — and yet that does not lessen the ache of missing her. Love and loss often exist side by side in moments like this.
You don’t have to be strong here. You don’t have to make sense of it yet. We’re here to sit with you as you move through this, one moment at a time.
If you feel able, what was your daughter’s first name? Or one of your favorite memories?
Wrapping you in prayers.
~Dawn~