Son estranged due to controlling spouse

Btw, here is my email in the event you are able to put together a support group.

Hello Ikas,
I understand the pain is unbearable. I purchased the materials and am getting my thoughts together on how to implement a group. I am a special education teacher still working. This is a busy time of the year. I am retiring at the end of the year and plan to get the group started in June.
In the meantime, we can chat here. Have you checked out Dr. Joshua Coleman's website? He offers weekly lessons on topics for a small fee. I have listened to most of his webinars. He answers questions at the end of his talks. He has helped me learn more about why this happens to some of us. I also have read "Done with Crying" by Sheri McGregor. There are many people offering help with estrangement, but most charge a fee. Dr. Coleman's is the most affordable. I envision a support group like Alanon that is primarily free. I will keep you posted about the group I hope to start. My son didn't talk to me for over a year, but then out of the blue he called me about a year ago.

Best advice ever from a husband's perspective. More men need to read or hear this wisdom when considering marriage. This would be a very valuable marriage counseling resource.

Thank you.
I married late in life, and I saw a lot of marriages go bad. Also, I dated a few divorced women whose principal complaint about their ex-husbands was that "He kept trying to please his mother instead of me."
I got the hint!

In my opinion, this situation, like all others, can be seen from different perspectives. Whatever behaviors you exhibit as a result of your son's decision could be misinterpreted by your daughter in law and/or her family. How close do you want to be to your son and his family? Your son is a grown up man, not your baby. This is a very sentimental thought, but not reality. Baby days are over!!! He makes the decisions. Painful but very real.
You sound like a strong person. Continue to get support from every source possible. Pray, if you are into that, it will make you stronger. Remember that its better to be in peace than to be right.
Thank you for sharing. So many of us face similar situations.

exact same situation here, this massively controlling, 10 years my sons senior, got pregnant in the 3rd month of her coveting him, its been 3 years since hes been "allowed" to speak with me & my heart breaks more every day, i just want to die.

Anyone got a daughter in law who is a witch? She told me she comes first . My son is in the military & they live on the other side of the country. How much more first does she need to come ?

My daughter in law has put a huge wedge between my son & me. We to also used to be very close. He’s my only child. My grandchildren are grown so I get to see them. I feel the same way as my son I feel is like another person now. I miss my old son.

Didn’t you know this is a support group ? How about supporting the moms .

Hi, @beatrice20 I know nothing of your family dynamic but I spent many terrible years early in my marriage when my mother couldn’t understand that, once married, my wife now came first in my life. She expected my relationship with her and my dad to not change but it certainly did. Marriage does that. Unfortunately she went to her grave never accepting the importance of my wife’s place in my life.

Life changes and acceptance can be challenging for sure. I wish you all well.

Strength, Courage, & Peace