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I have been estranged from my daughter for almost 20 years
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My response is different. Transgenerational trauma is passed on..My parents were in a place similar to you. If we are raised in dysfunction even if parents cannot or refuse to see it the child is harmed. Her father attempt at arson is major trauma
I am not blaming here but cause effect and Correlation is entirely different. At this point it is your daughters responsibility to heal herself and move forward.
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I don't understand what you mean. Are you saying that I should just forget about any relationship with her?
Funny you mention about her father and arson. She was never aware of it because I caught the fire before it got that far and put it out. Never said a word to her about it.
What does confuse me is that she, after all the times he stood her up for various visitations etc., thinks he is wonderful and blames me for everything. He had scheduled visitation with her and wouldn't show but later send her a postcard from Florida, California or wherever he was saying he "wished she was there"! After one of those she would get angry at ME. It wasn't my fault he didn't show or didn't let her know he wasn't coming.