I wish in hindsight reading these posts I had tried to get my first husband in hospice before I got him in a nursing home. He died 6 weeks later. I held his hand through his last breath. I do.not think any of his health care providers made this clear to me. How close he was. I wore myself out trying to take care of him. No blame just wish I would have been told upfront. I got seriously ill in 2014 2 years after his death. Very ill. I am fortunate to be alive and reading these posts. I still have trauma to process from it. This group helps. God bless