My heart is with you. I am a younger spouse/ caregiver for my husband of 39 years. We have a significant age difference and still get judged for it, but for us, it worked. Our kids are raised, but he is in hospice care now for dementia decline and a failing heart. I reached out to a lot of support groups, therapists, hospices, and the like until I found people and companies that worked for us. It took years and lots of advocating to find the resources that work for our paradigm of care and love in this life transition. I am happy to connect privately if you're interested. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.