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Does anyone feel old and useless with age?
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Thank you so much for your kind words. My husband feels the loneliness and isolation, too, as the male friends he had in our neighborhood who organized the “guys’ night out” get togethers have passed away. My husband has one friend left who is 95 years old but he doesn’t live nearby. Both my husband and I are extreme introverts so we just can’t go out and make friends. My anxiety is at such a heightened state that every little task I have to do makes me feel ill. I have a therapist I can talk with and have told him everything about my life as an abused child. I don’t have the strength to make it to some of my appointments as I am frozen with fear. Thank you for your prayer. Yes, I would like continue to communicate with you.
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Hi Dorothy and husband,
I hope today was a good day for you two. I'm sorry your husband has Parkinson's. That's awful to deal with.
It's hard when you don't have a lot of friends and probably don't really feel comfortable with a lot of people in your life. My husband and I were that way also. All of our friends and there weren't many have all died. My husband was 83 when he died of lung cancer. I'm 78. We preferred just to be with each other. Now it's just me.
I'm sorry about your anxiety over different tasks that you have to do. Have you tried talking yourself through them? Sometimes I do that. I just tell myself out loud, "I'm going to start the laundry and then go make the bed. After that, defrost the hamburger for dinner." It puts things in perspective and they don't seem so overwhelming.
That is terrible that you were abused as a child. But that was then and not now. Maybe it's best to try and forget about it as much as you can. It could be that you are afraid of the therapy appointments because that's where you re-live the terrible abuse that you had done to you.
Have you and your husband done anything fun lately? Like making popcorn and watching something on TV that you both enjoy? Or perhaps doing a jigsaw puzzle together. My husband did both of those things together. We also made cookies together. It makes things easier to cope with and we all need enjoyment in our lives!
I wish you both the best. Keep praying and so will I.
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I currently am not on any medication and after reading so many horror stories on utube about anti anxiety and anti depressant meds, I don’t know what to do. I have been on and off so many meds in the past 6 months but none have helped. Most of them just made me feel worse with their terrible side effects. I don’t know if I can push through without any medication. I have no appetite and have to force myself to eat. I need to get well so that I can take some of the burden off of my husband who has Parkinson’s disease. Every night when I toss and turn in bed, I pray to God to help me sleep, but so far I am still plagued with total insomnia.