WAIT! Please don't let him make you backslide too! You saw, after your daughter's visit, that he can change. He is just doing these things to provoke you.

First, and critical - take the car keys - now - before he hurts himself, you or some innocent bystander.

Tell him he has to call Uber, a taxi or his daughter for rides to doctor appointments you deem unnecessary. Contact the doctors yourself, by phone or message, and tell them you are doing this and why.

On the more annoying but less critical matter, show him 2 can play that game. EVERY time he puts "stuff" on the floor or in the refrig/freezer that belongs in the trash, openly remove it and carry it out. Then go for a walk or a drive (without your phone) while he has his tantrum!

It might seem juvenile to do this, but your alternatives are to continue to suffer in silence, or to push back. You're tough , so push back.

Here's a big Hug for you today,
Sue🫂

PS To any other member who thinks I am off-base here, please read this couple's history - yes he has some issues, but he won't fix them (take meds as ordered, etc) and his demands and behaviors are over-the-top.