Teresa, first, my background and then a few thoughts. My wife has had PD for 15 years and I have functioned as a care giver. Two and a half years ago I was also diagnosed with PD at the age of 68. I am also a type A personality who just retired as a hospital administrator for 35 years.

I have adopted my wife's philosophy to accept the diagnosis and make the best of it. Instead of waiting for the storm to pass I will learn to dance in the rain. Your husband may be withdrawn as he struggles with the diagnosis. He must decide how he wants to live the rest of his life. My wife said she can be miserable but she will still have PD so she has accepted the diagnosis and has moved on to live her life in the bast manner possible. Next, he must get the best care available with the latest treatments. We both see a movement disorder specialist, not just a neurologist, who has prescribed a sophisticated drug regiment. Five years ago my wife had DBS surgery which improved her functioning significantly. We maintain purpose in our lives including participating in fund raising activities for PD. We have accepted that we will no longer bike 50 miles in a day but we have maintained new goals for daily exercise which is keeping both of us active.

You would do better with an extended family of friends to support you both whether that is a PD support group or another group to keep you engaged. For example, we participate in a yoga group on zoom which is helpful even though remote. Some of the poor judgement may be the result of being distracted by the diagnosis and trying to take dramatic steps to make improvements such as financial decisions. Good discussions and joint planning may help you both set a road map for the future which provides your husband with a little more sense of control in his life which he probably needs.

Let me know if I can answer any questions. Best wishes in your journey, Joe