Thank you @tsc. I appreciate the advice and the encouragement. My husband isn't terribly impaired yet; he keeps track of our money and his medications, does the laundry, unloads the dishwasher, and still drives. It's this in-between stage that I find especially difficult, when he's still with it enough to live pretty normally but obviously declining. In a way, I wonder if it will be easier when he's more impaired and there's no question of his making decisions. I know there's no solution, just finding ways to manage. It must have been so difficult for you to have open-heart surgery and your husband's Alzheimer's diagnosis at the same time. I hear 'ya.